My dad died April 10, 2017 after a protracted illness. My mom died unexpectedly November 9, 2018. We all know the time will come, but it’s hard to be ready, no matter the circumstances. It’s odd how death tends to make one think more about life. Not only the life or lives that have ended, but about our own lives and what we want them to be.
Like most people (I imagine), I get caught up in the day to day existence — work, kids, shopping, cooking, cleaning, paying bills, the latest political outrage — and lose sight of the fact that my life is happening in every second of every day, and I can either make something meaningful of it, or like most of us, keep thinking about a future than might never come. As the saying goes, it’s not the destination, it’s the journey.
As my kids are nearly grown up and on their own, it’s time that I start spending more time focusing on the journey. Toward that end, I have decided to walk the Camino de Santiago. It’s a pilgrimage that follows St. James’s path to the city and cathedral in Santiago de Compostela, in northwest Spain. There are many routes to Santiago. The original route, which takes approximately two weeks to complete, is the Primitivo route, which starts in Oviedo. It’s not as heavily traveled as some of the others and is reportedly a quieter, more rural route. It sounds wonderful, and I’d like to do it someday, but the route I really want to do is the Frances, or French, Way, which runs from St. Jean Pied du Port, in southern France. It crosses the Pyrennes and goes through Pamplona and Leon, among many other cities/towns. This is, apparently, the most popular route, and one which takes approximately 30 days to complete.
Although the Primitivo route makes more sense from a time perspective (14 days as opposed to 30), I feel I might regret not doing the French route. I would miss not seeing Pamploma and Leon and who knows what else. I also feel being on the Camino for a month and really giving myself a chance to “reboot” from the stresses of daily living, as well as a greater opportunity to make lasting connections with other pilgrims and people who live along the route, is what the Camino is really about, and the reason I want to do it. The Primitivo route would be more of a “dipping my toe in,” as opposed to the more immersive experience of the French route. Taking a month off of work is obviously more of a challenge, but that’s what I really want.
Stay tuned to this space.